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enc-009How do we talk about money before marriage?婚前怎样谈钱？
enc-010When is jealousy control?嫉妒从什么时候变成控制？
enc-011Can we check each other's phones?可以查看对方的手机吗？
enc-012What if one person wants children and the other does not?一个想要孩子，一个不想，怎么办？
enc-013How do we divide housework without keeping score?家务怎样分，才不是天天记分？
enc-014What is a prenuptial agreement for?婚前协议是做什么用的？
enc-015How do we set limits with in-laws?怎样和姻亲划清边界？
enc-016What is an emotional affair?什么叫情感出轨？
enc-017How do we decide where to live after we marry?婚后住在哪里，怎样定？
enc-018What if one of us already has a child?一方已有孩子，婚前要谈什么？
enc-019How do we talk about a mismatch in sexual desire?性欲不一样，怎样谈？
enc-020How do we handle debt one of us brings into the marriage?一方带债进婚姻，怎么办？
enc-021When should we see a couples therapist?什么时候该去见伴侣咨询师？
enc-022How do we talk about past relationships before we marry?婚前要不要谈过去的感情？
enc-023Joint account, separate accounts, or both?婚后用联名账户、分开账户，还是两者都要？
enc-024What if we disagree about living with parents?一方要和父母同住，另一方不同意，怎么办？
enc-025How do we repair after a serious fight?大吵之后怎样修复？
enc-026What is the difference between privacy and secrecy?隐私和隐瞒有什么区别？
enc-027What if one of us wants to move cities or countries?一方要换城市或出国，怎么办？
enc-028How do we share holiday time between two families?节日时间怎样分给两边的家人？
enc-029What if parents oppose the marriage?父母反对这门婚事，怎么办？
enc-030How do we talk about wedding money and who pays?婚礼的钱谁出，怎样谈？
enc-031What if one of us does not want sex for a long stretch?有人长时间不想过性生活，怎么办？
enc-032How do we notice contempt in daily talk?日常说话里，怎样认出轻蔑？
enc-033Can a marriage continue after an affair?出轨之后，婚姻还能继续吗？
enc-034How do we talk about fertility and when to try for a child?生育能力和什么时候要孩子，怎样谈？
enc-035What if one of us wants an open relationship and the other does not?一方想开放关系，另一方不愿意，怎么办？
enc-036How do we talk about mental health before we marry?婚前怎样谈心理健康？
enc-037What if one of us is asked to support the other's parents?要不要出钱养对方的父母？
enc-038How do we decide who pauses work after a child is born?孩子出生后，谁暂停工作，怎样定？
enc-039What does a cooling-off period mean before divorce?离婚冷静期是什么意思？
enc-040What if we already live together and one of us still does not want to marry?已经同居，一方仍不想结婚，怎么办？
enc-041What is sexual consent?性同意是什么意思？
enc-042What is a boundary in a couple?伴侣之间的边界是什么？
enc-043What is stonewalling?什么是筑墙式拒谈？
enc-044What is gaslighting?什么是煤气灯效应？
enc-045What is love bombing?什么是爱情轰炸？
enc-046What is secure attachment?什么是安全型依恋？
enc-047What is anxious attachment?什么是焦虑型依恋？
enc-048What is avoidant attachment?什么是回避型依恋？
enc-049What is a bid for connection?什么是联结邀请？
enc-050What is a repair attempt?什么是修复尝试？
enc-051What is the difference between divorce and separation?离婚和分居有什么区别？
enc-052What is alimony?什么是离婚后的扶养费？
enc-053What is a blended family?什么是重组家庭？
enc-054What is dating after divorce?离婚后的约会是怎么一回事？
enc-055What is a long-distance relationship?什么是异地恋？
enc-056What is living apart together?什么是分开居住的伴侣关系？
enc-057What is an engagement?订婚是什么意思？
enc-058What is a cold marriage?什么是冷婚？
enc-059What is the silent treatment?什么是感情里的冷战？
enc-060What is an apology in a marriage?婚姻里的道歉是什么意思？
enc-061What is trust after a lie?说谎之后，信任怎样重建？
enc-062How do couples talk about pornography?夫妻怎样谈色情内容？
enc-063What about friends of the opposite sex?婚姻里的异性朋友怎么看？
enc-064What is social media jealousy?什么是社交媒体上的嫉妒？
enc-065What is the difference between a wedding and a marriage?婚礼和婚姻有什么区别？
enc-066What are cultural differences in a couple?夫妻文化背景不同，指的是什么？
enc-067What if a couple does not share a faith?信仰不同的夫妻要面对什么？
enc-068What happens when a spouse becomes ill?一方生病，婚姻要面对什么？
enc-069What is caregiving in a marriage?婚姻里的照料是什么意思？
enc-070What does retiring together change?夫妻一起退休会改变什么？
enc-071What changes when adult children leave home?成年子女离家之后，婚姻会怎样？
enc-072What is the empty nest?什么是空巢？
enc-073What is a second marriage with children?带着孩子再婚是什么情况？
enc-074What is a name change after marriage?婚后改姓是什么意思？
enc-075What are wedding night expectations?新婚之夜，人们通常期待什么？
enc-076What is a marriage proposal?求婚是什么意思？
enc-077What is monogamy?什么是一夫一妻制？
enc-078What is financial infidelity?什么是财务出轨？
enc-079What is common-law marriage?什么是事实婚姻？
enc-080What is a honeymoon?蜜月是什么意思？
enc-081What are conflict styles?什么是冲突风格？
enc-082What is the difference between criticism and a complaint?批评和抱怨有什么区别？
enc-083What is defensiveness?什么是婚姻里的防御？
enc-084What is turning toward?什么是转向对方？
enc-085What is a love map?什么是爱情地图？
enc-086What is fondness in a marriage?什么是婚姻里的喜爱与欣赏？
enc-087What is gridlock?什么是夫妻间的僵局？
enc-088What is a perpetual problem?什么是长期解不完的问题？
enc-089What is a date night?什么是二人约会时间？
enc-090What is household mental load?什么是家庭心智负荷？
enc-091What is invisible labor?什么是看不见的劳动？
enc-092What is in-law triangulation?什么是把父母拉进夫妻的事？
enc-093What is a mother-in-law in a marriage?婆婆和岳母在婚姻里指什么？
enc-094What is a father-in-law in a marriage?公公和岳父在婚姻里指什么？
enc-095What is an only-child couple?什么是独生子女夫妻？
enc-096What is filial piety for a couple?孝敬父母，夫妻要面对什么？
enc-097What is a bride price or wedding gift between families?彩礼和嫁妆，夫妻要谈什么？
enc-098What is a two-city career in a marriage?什么是两地工作的婚姻？
enc-099Whose career comes first?谁的事业优先，怎样谈？
enc-100What is infertility for a couple?不孕不育对夫妻意味着什么？
enc-101What is a miscarriage for a marriage?流产之后，婚姻要面对什么？
enc-102What is adoption as a couple decision?收养孩子，夫妻怎样决定？
enc-103What if we disagree about ending a pregnancy?对是否终止妊娠意见不同，怎么办？
enc-104What about sex during pregnancy?怀孕期间的性，要谈什么？
enc-105What is the postpartum period for a couple?产后，夫妻要面对什么？
enc-106What does sleep do to a marriage?睡眠怎样影响婚姻？
enc-107What if drinking becomes a marriage problem?喝酒怎样变成婚姻里的问题？
enc-108What if gambling becomes a marriage problem?赌博怎样变成婚姻里的问题？
enc-109What about phones at the table?吃饭和说话时看手机，怎么看？
enc-110What is work travel for a marriage?因公出差对婚姻意味着什么？
enc-111What does falling out of love mean?什么叫不再爱了？
enc-112What does it mean to stay for the children?什么叫为了孩子不离婚？
enc-113What is gray divorce?什么是灰色离婚？
enc-114How do we fight fair?怎样吵架才算公平？
enc-115What is a time-out in a fight?吵架时的暂停是什么意思？
enc-116What is loneliness in a marriage?什么叫在婚姻里感到孤单？
enc-117What is a roommate marriage?什么是室友式婚姻？
enc-118What is physical affection without sex?什么是不必通向性的身体亲近？
enc-119What is the rejection of a bid?什么是拒绝一次靠近？
enc-120What happens to friendship after marriage?结婚之后，友谊会怎样？
enc-121What is the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation?宽恕与和好有什么不同？
enc-122What is resentment in a marriage?什么是婚姻里的积怨？
enc-123What is nagging?什么叫唠叨？
enc-124What is emotional availability?什么是情感上的在场？
enc-125What is withholding affection as punishment?什么是用疏远来惩罚对方？
enc-126What are wedding vows?婚礼誓言是什么？
enc-127What is a renewal of vows?什么是重温誓言？
enc-128What is a wedding anniversary for a couple?结婚纪念日对夫妻意味着什么？
enc-129How do couples make decisions?夫妻怎样一起做决定？
enc-130Who has the final say?家里谁有最后决定权？
enc-131What is a 51/49 decision?什么是五十一比四十九的决定？
enc-132What if we move back in with parents as adults?成年后搬回父母家，夫妻要谈什么？
enc-133Whose name is the home in?房子写在谁名下？
enc-134Whose family do we visit at New Year?过年去谁家？
enc-135What about gifts to in-laws?给对方父母送礼，怎么看？
enc-136How do we parent a child from a prior relationship?一方带进来的孩子，夫妻怎样分担养育？
enc-137What is a stepparent?什么是继父母？
enc-138What is stepsibling tension for a couple?继兄弟姐妹起冲突，夫妻怎样面对？
enc-139What if we disagree about infertility treatment?对是否继续不孕治疗意见不同，怎么办？
enc-140What about sex after illness?生病之后的性，要谈什么？
enc-141What is menopause for a couple?更年期对夫妻意味着什么？
enc-142How do we talk about low testosterone?怎样谈睾酮水平偏低？
enc-143What is the first week after an affair is discovered?发现对方有婚外情的第一周，要面对什么？
enc-144What is no-contact after a breakup?分手后不再联系，是什么意思？
enc-145What is a rebound?什么是反弹式恋爱？
enc-146What does it mean to live with an ex for the children?为了孩子与前任同住，是什么意思？
enc-147What are separate bedrooms?什么是分房睡？
enc-148What is flirting?什么叫调情？
enc-149What is emotional cutoff?什么是情感切断？
enc-150What is enmeshment with a family of origin?什么是与原生家庭界限不清？
enc-151What is a couple ritual?什么是属于两个人的仪式？
enc-152What is a weekly meeting for a couple?什么是夫妻的每周商量？
enc-153How do we start a hard conversation?怎样开口谈一件难事？
enc-154What is an I-statement?什么是从自己说起？
enc-155What is flooding, and when not to talk?什么是情绪淹没，什么时候先不要谈？
enc-156What is taking things personally?什么叫事事往自己身上想？
enc-157What is mind-reading in a couple?什么是自以为知道对方在想什么？
enc-158What is inheritance for a marriage?遗产和这笔婚姻是什么关系？
enc-159How do we tell the children about a divorce?离婚这件事，夫妻怎样看待告知孩子？
enc-160What is shift work for a couple?倒班对夫妻意味着什么？
enc-161What is the difference between commitment and chemistry?承诺和化学反应有什么区别？
enc-162What is compatibility?什么是合得来？
enc-163What is a red flag while dating?约会时的危险信号是什么意思？
enc-164What does moving in together mean?搬到一起住是什么意思？
enc-165Who pays on a date?约会谁买单？
enc-166What is exclusivity?什么是恋爱中的专一约定？
enc-167What is defining the relationship?什么是把关系说清楚？
enc-168What is ghosting?什么是突然失联？
enc-169What is breadcrumbing?什么是吊着不说清？
enc-170What is a situationship?什么是说不清的关系？
enc-171What is meeting the parents?见家长是什么意思？
enc-172What is introducing a partner to one's children?把对象介绍给自己的孩子，是什么意思？
enc-173What is living together before marriage?婚前同居是什么意思？
enc-174Whose last name do the children take?孩子跟谁姓？
enc-175What is a parenting-style clash?什么是教养方式起冲突？
enc-176What about religion and the children?孩子的信仰，夫妻要谈什么？
enc-177What is immigration for a marriage?移民和这门婚姻是什么关系？
enc-178What is the difference between couple friends and individual friends?夫妻共同的朋友和个人的朋友有什么区别？
enc-179What is sarcasm as a jab?什么是用讽刺扎人？
enc-180What is fighting in front of children?什么是当着孩子的面吵架？
enc-181What is financial abuse?什么是经济控制？
enc-182What is location tracking in a couple?什么是查看对方的位置？
enc-183What are shared passwords?什么是共用密码？
enc-184What is the difference between eloping and a big wedding?私下结婚和盛大婚礼有什么区别？
enc-185What is the first year of marriage?婚后第一年要面对什么？
enc-186What does the seven-year itch mean?七年之痒是什么意思？
enc-187What is midlife for a couple?中年对夫妻意味着什么？
enc-188What are hospital decisions for a spouse?一方住院时，谁来做决定？
enc-189How do we tell adult children about a divorce?离婚这件事，怎样看待告知已成年的子女？
enc-190What is dating after a spouse dies?丧偶之后再约会，是怎么一回事？
enc-191Why is how often to have sex the wrong question?为什么不该先问该多久过一次性生活？
enc-192What does it mean to wait after a fight?吵完之后先等一等，是什么意思？
enc-193What is writing instead of talking?什么是写下来，而不是当面说？
enc-194What does it mean to stop trying?什么叫不再努力维持了？
enc-195What is a trial separation?什么是试分居？
enc-196What is a mediator?什么是调解人？
enc-197What is a high-conflict divorce?什么是高冲突的离婚？
enc-198What is parallel parenting?什么是平行育儿？
enc-199What is introducing a new partner too soon?什么叫太早介绍新对象？
enc-200What is a deal-breaker?什么是不能让的底线？