Whose career comes first?

This entry describes the career-first question as a repeating choice about whose job sets the city, the hours, and the next move. It lists what is usually at stake: pay, status, the person who follows, and whether a temporary delay has become the standing rule.

What this entry does not do

It does not rank one spouse's work above the other's, and it does not replace the entry on who pauses work after a child is born.