Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships

What it is about

Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships explores the gap between the unconditional love a person longs for and the ordinary, limited bond they actually inhabit. Welwood, writing from a psychospiritual angle, shows how old wounds and unmet needs get projected onto a partner who is then asked to cure them. The book invites readers to meet disappointment without collapsing into blame or fantasy of a perfect mate. It is reflective guidance on love’s psychology, not a religious conversion text and not a couples communication curriculum.

Questions it can answer

• What gap does Welwood name between longed-for love and the relationship one is in?
• How do old wounds get asked of a partner as if the partner could cure them?
• How can disappointment be met without only blame or a fantasy of a perfect mate?

What you will not find

• A step-by-step PREP or Gottman skills programme
• A medical or psychiatric treatment plan
• Advice that spiritual insight replaces leaving when there is abuse