Not "Just Friends"

What it is about

Not "Just Friends" is Shirley Glass’s clinical account of how emotional affairs form: secrecy, opportunity, and a wall built against the spouse while a window opens toward someone else. Glass describes the slippery line between a friendship and a second attachment, the role of workplace and online contact, and what recovery requires if a couple chooses to stay—honesty about the bond, closing the window, and rebuilding safety with the partner. The book is written for people trying to tell a friendship from a parallel intimacy, not for people looking for tips on how to have an affair. It does not treat emotional involvement as harmless because there was no sex.

Questions it can answer

• How does Glass describe an emotional affair forming through secrecy and a wall against the spouse?
• What signs help tell a friendship from a second attachment?
• What does recovery ask for if a couple tries to stay after an emotional affair?

What you will not find

• Tips for starting or hiding an emotional or sexual affair
• A claim that only sexual contact counts as betrayal
• A guarantee that every marriage can or should be restored