Hold Me Tight

What it is about

Sue Johnson, through Emotionally Focused Therapy, shows how fights often wear the clothes of attachment panic. Dialogues help couples see pursue–withdraw cycles and practise safer emotional reaches and responses—rebuilding “I am safe when you are here.”

Questions it can answer

• What need is hiding under a recurring fight?
• How do you turn blame into a vulnerable sentence the other person can answer?
• How does a safer emotional response interrupt a pursue–withdraw cycle?

What you will not find

• An exit guide for one-sided violence
• The full toolkit of sex therapy
• A promise of equal effect in every culture