The Dance of Deception

What it is about

The Dance of Deception is Harriet Lerner on lying, pretence, and the truths intimate partners avoid. It is relevant to privacy-and-secrecy questions without being an affairs protocol or a detective manual. Lerner examines how self-deception and protecting an image shape what can be said between partners. The book is psychological essay on honesty and concealment in close bonds, not a how-to for catching a cheater and not a full betrayal-recovery programme.

Questions it can answer

• How does Lerner describe lying, pretence, and avoided truths between intimate partners?
• How do self-deception and image-protection shape what can be said?
• How is this different from an affairs-detection or recovery protocol?

What you will not find

• Surveillance tactics or phone-checking instructions
• A step-by-step affair disclosure script for every case
• Legal advice on adultery and divorce